At the age of 11 or 12 Nia saw something happen that many Jehovah’s Witnesses see, one of the teenagers in her congregation was disfellowshipped. But what she also experienced was her mother’s reaction, a reaction that lacked care or compassion for the person that was now seen as lost, a reaction that lacked any real care for Nia as well. “Don’t you EVER embarrass me the way she embarrassed her mother!”
And there you have a relationship summed up in one quick remark, a relationship that would leave Nia trying desperately to earn her mother’s love, a love that should be natural and without conditions based on a particular cult belief system, but a love that Jehovah’s Witnesses lack. If a person has to earn that love through performance based measures in a cult, that love can just as easily be lost. In this episode you’ll follow Nia’s journey from a little girl trying to earn her mother’s love to a woman learning to love herself.
The new song that Nia chose to represent her story is Pray by Sam Smith.
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Music provided by Jane and the Boy, entitled Save Myself.
My heart also would like to have a real relationship with my parents. Somedays I struggle with the emotions but overall am happy with my decision to leave.
Glad you are making a path for you and I send you lots of encouragement.
Hi Nia!
I love how your personality is during the interview. You made me laugh and cry at the same time. I always felt like my extrovert tendencies were suffocated growing up JW. I’m happy that you are letting that side shine through and you never let anyone take that from you even when you were in it. The way you told your story made me feel better about my story and a little light hearted twist to it. You seem like just an overall cool person to connect with. I hope we can connect someday.